There is a phrase in an Anglican collect (group prayer) for Lent that mentions us “worthily lamenting” our sin.  I don’t think that that phrase always describes my relationship to sin.

I’m more likely to lament the consequences of sin or regret because of the way I feel afterwards.

perhaps remorse and self-loathing is a beginning step, or else a counterfeit for worthy lament.

Lord, let me worthily lament my sin:

• My selfishness.
• My caring more about my comfort than the comfort of others.
• My caring about what others think of me more than what they think of You, or what you think of me